Loving Kids Versus the Responsibility of Having Them

I came across this thought-provoking blog on newadvent.org: “Not a Kid-person.” The author describers herself as “not a kid-person,” yet you would think she was with having five children. Seems like a contradictory statement, no? Think about it: if you said you were not a “people person,” does that mean you shy away from human contact? No, that simply means you’re not great with people, but that doesn’t excuse you from your obligation to interact with others. There are many things in life we don’t feel comfortable doing, but we have to out of obligation, responsibility, and plain ‘ol “doing the right thing.” If you’re not a celibate religious, getting married and having children is a vocational obligation. Marriage and family is the foundation for a civil, stable society. If our culture just did – or did not – do things because they simply “felt like it,” we’re doomed. Sadly, as this author points out, we’ve become just that.

It’s a short and worthwhile read.

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4 Responses to Loving Kids Versus the Responsibility of Having Them

  1. connectdd says:

    Thought provoking article. There are many of us parents who aren’t ‘kid people’ but can open our hearts and lives to the ones we do have and learn amazing things along the way. (That said, we don’t keep just having them, the end of the article felt disturbing).

    • Glad you found it a worthwhile read as I did. I’m a parent of a three-year-old son and I don’t consider myself a “kid-person” either (because of my own lack of patience and faults), but I value my son and any future children we have for who they are.

      As far “we don’t keep just having them,” I didn’t get that vibe from the end of the article, The author is a Catholic and as a fellow Catholic we have an understanding that we should be open to life. Doesn’t mean we ” crank out babies” (because there are many Catholic couples who cannot have many or no children for whatever circumstances – biological or financial), but rather the married couple commits themselves to the fullness of the sexual act, an act of true love for the other.

      • connectdd says:

        I guess the announcement at the end sounded like resignation rather than a joy filled choice. Perhaps that wasn’t the intent, but earlier in the article it sounds like there are other things that are part of her calling as well. As an aside, my bff is one of nine and has some feelings on the Catholic views as expressed by some, including her folks.

      • Thanks for the clarification. I see what you mean. Re-reading the blog again, I can understand it coming across like that. Or you can just contact the author herself and get her take :).

        One of nine – sounds quite Catholic!

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